As I am entering into senior year, I have learned a lot in regards to friends. What a good one looks like, how treat them, and most importantly, what a friend who adds to your life looks like. So this article, though applicable to all ages, is mainly directed at those entering middle school or high school and are looking for their people.
As seen below, I have put together the some of the most important things to look for in a friend, at least in my eyes, inorder to build deep, rich relationships for the rest of your life.
- They speak highly of others
Something I have noticed, is when people are quick to talk about those around you, that can also be quick to talk about you. It is two sides of the same coin, you may be hearing new things but your information may also be being spread as well.
2. They are kind to their parents/family
When building a friendship, the ultimate goal is that you are a chosen “family member”. And if they treat those around them poorly quite consistantly, that is not a person that will treat you well
3. Similar moral compass
Something I heard one time was: “Your five closest friends is where you will be in five years”. This means, those around you do have an affect on who you are. Though it is subconcious, surrounding yourself with people who make bad decisions makes you view those as more normal, and are thus more likely to act similarly in the future.
4. They give and recieve
This looks different for everyone. Some people lift you up through kind words, small gifts, or acts of service. However, it is important to notice when someone is pouring into you as much as you are pouring into them. Seasons fluxuate and life happens, but ultimately, this person should be making an effort when they are able to to make you happier.
5. They add to your life
You have to look at their net impact. Are they causing you stress, anxiety or sadness? Or are they encouraging you, uplifting you, and most importantly loving you? These are the questions to ask yourself when considering whether someone is being a good friend to you. Good friends are a source of light in your life, and be on the look out for the girls who shine and cause you to shine. Seeing fruit is an important thing in all aspects of your life, and good friendship are one of the things that bare fruit.
I hope this was helpful! Remember, no one is perfect but it is important to look at your friendships and girls you hope to be friends with with these aspects in mind!
